I have worked with numerous couples at all stagesof life, and have "learned by doing" in my own 32 year marriage,including raising three fantastic and challenging children to adulthood.
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Rekindle The Passion with the 4C's by Steve Brody and Cathy Brody.
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When couples enter midlife together, a myriad of pressures, issues and concerns await them. The children head out into the world while an elderly mother in need of care may move in. A spouse may experience declining health.
Dissatisfaction, depression and boredom, which may have plagued the relationship but been kept at bay for the sake of "the family," could emerge as the children leave home and a couple spends more time together again.
What can a couple do to address midlife issues and bring the focus back on themselves and any facet of their marriage that may have been neglected while the children were at home?
Sexual intimacy often is lost in the balancing of kids, career and housekeeping responsibilities during the childrearing years. Nationally recognized relationship counselors Steve and Cathy Brody offer key insights on couplehood at midlife in their book "Renew Your Marriage at Midlife" (Penguin Putnam, 1999). They recommend the Four Cs of sexual arousal (creativity, courage, communication, courtship) to set the home fires burning again.
The Four Cs excerpted below are from the book Renew Your Marriage at Midlife: a guide to growing together in love by Steve and Cathy Brody*:
Creativity
Don't become the victim of routine.
Courage
You need the courage to stand by your needs and desires.
Communication
Besides enhancing intimacy, communication helps resolve sex problems.
Re-statement of Romance by Wallace Stevens Comments (0) The night knows nothing of the chants of night.
It is what it is as I am what I am:
And in perceiving this I best perceive myself
And you. Only we two may interchange
Each in the other what each has to give.
Only we two are one, not you and night,
Nor night and I, but you and I, alone,
So much alone, so deeply by ourselves,
So far beyond the casual solitudes,
That night is only the background of our selves,
Supremely true each to its separate self,
In the pale light that each upon the other throws.
Eros and the Circle of Divine Love by David Fideler Love is more than a merely human emotion. In the Greek tradition, the power of Eros was seen as the underlying force which moves the heavenly spheres and animates all of existence. Love is the magnetic pull which binds all of creation together into a seamless unity…
Rekindle The Passion 
Re-statement of Romance by Wallace Stevens 
Eros and the Circle of Divine Love by David Fideler 
