I have worked with numerous couples at all stagesof life, and have "learned by doing" in my own 32 year marriage,including raising three fantastic and challenging children to adulthood.
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The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate By Gary Chapman
AUDIOBOOK: Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love and then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. $19.59
Non-Adversarial Communication: Speaking and Listening from the Heart By Arlene Brownell, Thomas Bache-Wiig
BOOK: "A must read if we are going to make a better world." ~ Randall Huntsberry
How to Fight Fair By Dr. Phil
How you argue — especially how you end an argument — can determine the long-term success or failure of your relationship.
A primary requirement for any fight is to maintain control. You do not have the license to be childish, abusive or immature. If you have legitimate feelings, you are entitled to give a reasonable voice to those feelings in a constructive way. (That includes not being self-righteous or taking yourself too seriously.)
"Disagreements are going to occur," says Dr. Phil. "The question is, do you go into it with a spirit of looking for resolution or do you go into it with a spirit of getting even, vengeance, control? You'll never win if you do that. If you make your relationship a competition that means your spouse has to lose in order for you to win. It's not a competition, it's a partnership."
Here are Dr. Phil's specific rules for fighting fair.
1. Take it private and keep it private.
2. Keep it relevant.
3. Keep it real.
4. Avoid character assassination.
5. Remain task-oriented.
6. Allow for your partner to retreat with dignity.
7. Be proportional in your intensity.
8. There's a time limit.
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Marital Education Programs Help Keep Couples Together by American Psychological Association Research begun in the 1970's by psychologists Howard Markman, PhD, John Gottman, PhD, and others found that the quality of interaction between husbands and wives was highly predictive of marital distress or divorce. The studies indicated that couples who interacted more negatively than other couples had marriages that that were in trouble or predicted future marital distress.
“ Basic Steps to Achieving Healthy Communication” by Dr. Harville Hendrix on Oprah
According to marriage therapist Dr. Harville Hendrix, there are three basic steps to achieving healthy communication... free
Career Warfare: 10 Rules for Building a Successful Personal Brand and Fighting to Keep It
BOOK: ""A refreshing message ... from someone who has fought many corporate wars." <~ The New York Times
TOP 10 Books on Negotiation: Apr '07
1. Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In
By Roger Fisher, William Ury, Bruce Patton, 2. Power of a Positive No: How to Say No and Still Get to Yes
By William Ury ...
100 Days of Weight Loss: The Secret to Being Successful on ANY Diet Plan
BOOK: If you have ever struggled with excess weight and couldn't motivate yourself to stick with a diet for the long haul you should read this book.
How to Fight Fair By Dr. Phil
Marital Education Programs Help Keep Couples Together by American Psychological Association 
